Comments on: Autism Is Just Another Personality Type – It’s Not Always a Problem

By: Vrinda Pendred

Vrinda Pendred — Sat, 08 Nov 2014 16:06:38 +0000

Thank you so much for sharing your person story. I personally think there needs to be much more education provided to teachers about these sorts of diagnoses, so they understand the students and don’t force such difficult social situations on them.

Vrinda Pendred
Founder of Conditional Publications

By: carrie

carrie — Sun, 26 Oct 2014 10:29:15 +0000

I have wondered all my life ,I used to read and read, and sing to records and loved my dance classes..but I was never invited to many parties but I was not bothered..however teenage years were horrible..I did not get school too slow..other kids too aggressive – if you want to pick a fight with me I think you want to really want hurt me and my reaction to this scared me so i had to avoid those kind of kids…I love my own company – I am loyal and very focused and love intensely..I did not realise other people recover so soon from broken relationship.s– the last one for me took 7 years until the pain stopped…I now see my siblings with autistic kids…so they say – they all seem ok to me but not very socialable…I am ok with social situations but not ruled by them..people find this uncomfortable – I dont play by anyone rules but my own and my own morals are a bit harsh to my life I realise now…yet what am I …I know I dont think like others and that has always been so..and my short term memory seems to get worse as I get older and the realisation that other people are being left alone and feeling lonely bothers me ….I feel now I can reach out the those people whose loved one are gone ..or simpy their kids have moved on and we seem to relate so much better…nice ready your site and feel encouraged by it…I so wish i had someone to share my love and speed of reading with…now down to 2 books a day on a day off …love to read..best thing ever…

By: Vrinda Pendred

Vrinda Pendred — Sun, 10 Feb 2013 11:06:00 +0000

As we said at the start of that article, it definitely did not apply to the more extreme situations. We are all individuals. It was simply meant to put forth the notion that perhaps we should not be medicating willy-nilly but rather reserve that for when it is absolutely necessary, because that is what medication is there for: to help those who really do need it.

By: paularoberts

paularoberts — Wed, 06 Feb 2013 19:56:20 +0000

sometimes i just want to die.i have short term memory ,find it impossible to have a relationship with a man,as i can only live on my own and can only tolerate people in very small doses.i need medication,as without it i would be suicidal most of the time.trying to learn anything new is very overwhelming for me,and being in crowds is overwhelming for me,and my paranoa without meds is off the scale.i dont like people unless they are similar to me.people annoy me,and i annoy them,i find it very difficult to b with people for to long a time.and hate whats going on around me.but i just tolerate life from day to day as i have a daughter and granchildren that need me and love me.so i suppose id better stay around a while longer.

By: Vrinda Pendred

Vrinda Pendred — Thu, 26 Jul 2012 17:12:38 +0000

Such good points you make, thank you!

By: kimberley

kimberley — Sun, 22 Jul 2012 20:46:14 +0000

I love this piece you have written it sound like so much the same as the way I think and what I believe. This is the type of thing I write about when I talk about my aspergers, actualy I have been thinking so much about similar things recently, that just last night I wrote about perceptions, which goes along the same lines as this. I realy love the way you have written this and I can so relate, so many people are about changing people like us but say very little about understanding us.

By: Susan Hepp

Susan Hepp — Sun, 04 Mar 2012 05:16:26 +0000

I have been thinking about this very subject recently!
The public is so focused on Autism right now (as well they should). They worry and wish and hope for those with Autism, and how they will cope and function in this world. Autism tends to be described as “being in your own little world”, and that no one can reach you, break through to you.
But this seems awefully familiar… Are not the GENERAL public in their own sense “autistic”? When you see people endlessly hidden behind cell phones, ipods, computers and texting pads? I have seen first-hand, people ignoring others in order to text or listen to music….They cannot be reached. How is that so different?
It’s like a self-imposed autism. Makes me think, anyways.

By: Vrinda Pendred

Vrinda Pendred — Mon, 13 Feb 2012 09:36:22 +0000

i am so, so happy to see this made a difference to someone. i really like how you put it – that everything you read shows you what to look for but you feel you need to know what he looks for. i could not agree with that more. when i have read books on autistic spectrum conditions, i have just read countless views on symptoms and medications, etc. but very little on what people like me actually think and feel.

if you’re wanting to read more like this, i would highly recommend:

* ‘Thinking in Pictures’ by Temple Grandin – a really beautiful, moving autobiography of a woman with high-functioning autism.

* Asperger United, a quarterly magazine filled with writings by people with diagnoses of aspergers or autism of any form, all about the trials, tribulations, and the positive sides of life with such diagnoses. I don’t know where you’re located but I have a free subscription to it in the UK. You can also download it for free as a PDF. You can find details of it here: http://www.autism.org.uk/aspergerunited

* We are considering publication of a book written by someone with high-functioning autism all about how to help your autistic child. Stay tuned for that.

By: Beth

Beth — Thu, 02 Feb 2012 02:39:29 +0000

Thank you for this, my son who is only 5 has pdd-nos and every day I look for more things to help me see things from his point and most things that I find only tell me what to look for, and to be honest I don’t need to know what to look for I need to know what he looks for and what hes thinking, some times I don’t know how to act with him, should I be more understanding with him and let him do more then I let my other kids should I treat him the same way I treat them? my questions could go on for ever and I think that this is one of the first things that I have read that helps me with what he see’s.
Other then that you gave me hope that, he will be ok. Not that I didn’t think that he would be, but that he would adjust in to the world ok, if that makes since. He starts school next year and like the rest of my kids I am scared for him and I just hope that he does outstanding and proves the world wrong!

By: Vrinda Pendred

Vrinda Pendred — Mon, 01 Aug 2011 19:10:07 +0000

Thank you, Andre. It has always been an up-and-down journey for me too. I think it’s important to remember that you say you’re already 24 and don’t feel you have much to show for it…but equally, you’re ONLY 24. You still have DECADES to turn that around, and it sounds like you’re taking steps. It’s a struggle for us all. And there are plenty of people out there struggling with life without having a diagnosis to blame it on, you must remember! I think a big mistake we all do is get an idea in our heads of what we would like to be…and when it all can’t happen at once, we feel like none of it ever will. Focus on one tiny tiny goal at a time. When I went through CBT for my OCD, we started at the bottom – the tiny things that didn’t affect me as much were the first to tackle. Only after I could get through that did we move on to work on something a little bigger. This went on for years – but the point is, even if the progress feels slow and small…it’s STILL progress!